b"DON'T YOU BELIEVE IN ME?We adore our kids, but when does adoration and love turn into something not so right? By Dr. Dean Beckloff | ContributorWe want so much for our kids. We are enthralled with our little ones and are excited beyond belief for their first steps. Their first words. And on and on with all their firsts. From their first soccerTEENS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE game, their first entry into school (along with the Facebook pics), to ultimately moving into high school and college. We. Adore.MOVING AWAY FROM US IN THEIR Our. Kids. And theres simply nothing wrong with that, and it is so right to love our kids deeply.But when does adoration and love turn into something not soCOURSE THAT WE IN PSYCHOLOGY right? When do our goals for them turn into the goals that they must not only share but pursue? When does helping our kids toCALL INDIVIDUATION. THIS IS pursue excellence turn into projecting our goals onto theminstead of helping them to be their best selves?We see parents who cross the line. The parent screaming on theTHE MOVEMENT FROM BEING sidelines at the kid for making a mistake on the field. The parent stepping in to help their kid do whatever they can to get them intoDEPENDENT ON A PARENT TO a good schoolas weve seen in the news recently, with parents serving jail time for cheating for their child. And any parent who turns from encouraging to yelling has probably crossed the line. BECOMING SELF-SUFFICIENT.Why? Why does a parent cross the line? Fear seems to be the culprit for many of the reasons we cross too many lines. I hate GoodLifeFamilyMag.comMARCH 202019"