Good Morning Texas’ Paige McCoy Smith shares heartfelt tips for re-igniting the flame in your marriage….
by Paige McCoy Smith | Contributor
I know I am not alone. It’s tough to keep that flame burning when daily realities are causing romantic life to go up in smoke! So what’s a girl to do? I’ve come up with a secret plan designed to rekindle that long-forgotten spark. Ok – it’s not really a secret since I’m letting you in on it – but let’s pretend I am whispering it to you, and I hope you will be inspired.
LOVE NOTES
I am leaving love notes. I discovered that my computer-driven hands can still grip a pencil, and I am leaving bits of paper in different locations that only he will find. True, it takes a little more effort than shooting off a text, but it fosters memories of passing notes in class and makes him smile. It also makes me smile. I already have tomorrow’s note drafted. Take a look….
DO YOU LIKE ME? YES OR NO (CIRCLE ONE)
CONVERSATION CARDS
Date nights seem like an obvious solution for reconnecting. But the last few date nights we had didn’t go so well. Although we had good intentions of keeping the conversation off the kids and on one another, we were sometimes left with very little to say. Desperate, I weighed the risks and brought up the upcoming presidential campaign (a true Hail Mary) which served as a spring board to campaign finance, which led to our finances, and ultimately to a rough landing on kids’ allowance. We rode home in silence. So the next time I am bringing some Conversation Cards. I will use index cards, but you can simply pull some questions from www.conversationstarters.com. Some of the questions are better served for strangers, but some could be enlightening. For instance, “what is the thing you miss most about being a kid?” or “if you had to be an animal – what would you be?”. You may be surprised what you learn about the man sleeping in your bed.
ACTS OF KINDNESS
As for me, my “love language” is words of affection. Tell me I look skinny and you have a friend for life. For my husband, and for many men, their “love language” is acts of kindness. Getting the oil changed, buying him new underwear, or a giving him a simple foot massage may be just the ticket to make him feel loved and to bring you closer. I admit this one is hard for me. But carving out a little portion of our serving pie to our spouse could make a big difference in the overall health of the marriage.
I must confess – it kinda gives me the heebie-jeebies taking love lessons from a love-sick teenager – especially one who happens to be my son. But love should not be reserved for just the young. Those butterflies that flew in our teenage stomachs are still there. They may have temporarily been re-cocooned… but they are anxious for an excuse to take flight!
Until we meet again,
PS: Look for me on WFAA Channel 8 Monday through Friday at 9:00 AM!